1. In most conflict situations, I am inclined to win and feel good about myself.
    Agree
    Disagree

2. I feel irritated if someone is very blunt with me.
    Agree
    Disagree

Use these questions to learn about general conflict styles. Choose the answer that best reflects your overall tendencies during conflict. Can you identify the two different general conflict styles reflected in these questions?

3. I attempt to stand firm in my conflict requests.
    Agree
    Disagree

4. I do my best to soothe the other person’s feelings and tend to the relationship.
    Agree
    Disagree

5. Learn about five specific conflict styles. See if you can identify which conflict style is reflected in each question:

    1) I usually avoid open discussion of the conflict with the person.
    2) I “give and take” so a compromise can be reached.
    3) I’m generally firm in pursuing my side of the issue.
    4) I’m open to the other person’s suggestions in resolving the problem.
    5) I often go along with the suggestions of the other person.

(For help, see pages 271-273 for descriptions of integrating, compromising, avoidance, dominating, and obliging.)